Do you have any regrets in life? Like all of us, I suppose you do. How would be our life if we start to live without regrets? I guess it might be marvelous from all the angles.
Regrets tend to be the source of our negative thoughts; they are an emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome. As human beings, we can control our lives; therefore, the ability to remove regrets is at our hands.
Essential ways to live without regrets
1. Stop saying next time
Did you know that almost 85% of the total thoughts we have on a day are negative emotions? This percentage is shocking, but at the same time, it reflects reality. We often see all around us a lot of people making promises of all kinds. They rarely keep their commitments and get used to living with regrets, which is wrong; sometimes, it is hard for unknown reasons to take action and respect our promises; that’s why we overuse the phrase next time.
The promises we make to ourselves are essential. There’s a reason you made that promises. You know what you need and what is best for you. So, step in front of your life and take responsibility. Don’t wait for some magic to fulfill your promises because there is no such thing. You are the spark from your own life, and you can act now.
2. Avoid being shy
When we were kids, we didn’t care so much about being shy. We took advantage of every chance, we dared to interact with other people, no matter what the consequence was. Making friends was just a simple task; back then were fewer distractions and more interaction. But all this was so long time ago.
Now, we live in an era ruled by technology and less devoid of human interaction. We keep online our conversations with friends and family by watching them through a screen; this is not a bad thing; it helps us stay in touch with those that are far away. But, being accustomed to this type of communication, we often tend to be shy to interact with the people next to us.
We started to develop an addiction for the communication devices; we frequently prefer to use them in starting a conversation with somebody. The world we live in is too busy, and we have more important things to do than interact live with people. This behavior leads us to be shy when:
- We try to create relationships
- We speak in public
Removing the shyness from our life is nearly impossible. Therefore let’s try to deal with it. By doing so, I recommend you to look for methods that will help you to overcome this emotion. You can check out this article to read more about shyness.
3. Take advantage of the present moment
We all live in the present, and we have the freedom to do whatever we want. But there are moments when we are reticent when it comes to doing something great. This odd situation is often happening because of subconscious. The subconscious is that part of the mind that is not so primitive with the things we want. You can control it by applying different methods and technics. You can read here more about how to train your subconscious mind.
The fear of bad things that may happen makes us unhappy. How many things would you have done if you knew about the coronavirus pandemic? Probably a lot, that’s why you might have a lot of regrets. We will never know what other disasters may occur in the world or how tomorrow will be, but we do know one thing, the present.
Next time when you want to do something that gives you joy, just do it, don’t think about the consequences. Frequently we tend to give up on things we love because of fear.
- We love to swim, but we fear we can drown
- We love going on vacation, but we fear our plane may crash
- Icecream is so tasty, but we fear we can get sick because of its coldness
- We often avoid expressing our feelings because we fear rejection
- We love to sing, but we fear that nobody will listen to us
All of the above actions and many others take us away from being happy unless we accomplish them. Let’s try starting today to do the things we love and to live without regrets.
Keep in mind that fear is temporary, but the regrets are forever.
Our life is too short to live with regrets. Consequently, try to avoid saying next time, learn how to control your shyness, and finally take advantage of the present moment.
Do the things that once makes you happy, because, in the end, we usually regret the chances we didn’t take.