The unconscious fear of not being rejected by society has as result the difficulty of giving a negative answer when we are not willing to do something.
Since there are many situations in which we do things we are not willing to do, I’ve been thinking of presenting you today an article on this subject, that is, the fear of refusing certain favors.
Most of the times we tend to accept certain things for fear of not being considered selfish or because we are ashamed. But most of the time, the lack of courage to refuse causes us troubles.
In the life of each of us, there were definitely moments when we did things we did not want.
Thus, we can not say that we have acted against our will because it is wrong; the most correct thing is that we often force ourselves to act in a certain way.
You know how to say no?
From an unconscious fear of not being rejected or marginalized some of us have great difficulty in saying NO.
The acceptance, in the case in which the refusal seems impossible, there is nothing else than a false YES, an attitude of passive obedience.
Such an attitude can generate real conflicts, which has as result the under-evaluation of the self.
How do you say no?
No, a word on how short, so powerful, which makes our position understood, immediately.
We do not need to use substitutes like “I do not know”, “I’m not sure”, “I’ll see”, especially if you intend to refuse, because they can be misinterpreted.
In order to justify somewhat our choice, let’s provide simple explanations.
Let’s avoid the details in order to not give the opportunity to the person concerned to insist on forever, finding alternatives.
To say No when we feel is proof of courage and respect for ourselves.
Therefore, let’s face the unconscious fear that inhibits our courage and let’s regain our power to say No at the right time.