Living the illusion of love and certainty

Love is a tricky thing, and, at the same time, it is something extraordinary. Many of us have lived the illusion of love, the illusion of being loved by someone. 

You embrace the feeling of knowing that there is a person who is thinking about you, care about you, and wish you all the best. However, in some cases, this feeling might be an illusion of love and certainty.

Moving on, you will discover the answers for living the illusion of love and certainty.

All relationships start with an immeasurable vibe. The feeling of the first date, knowing that you met someone, makes you feel on top of the world. 

If you like the person you date with, you try to remain optimistic about how things will work. You adopt this attitude without knowing if the other person feels something for you or at least like you.

Let’s say that both partners have an interest in each other. As the relationship goes on, wishes start to appear. Each one expresses their desires about the way they see a successful relationship. Having desires in place, we can assume that this is the moment when trust arises.

In some cases, the wishes are far from being fulfilled, but the partners preferred to stay quiet without discussing the problem. The silence occurs because they think that the partner knows the problem, but they don’t in many cases.

Therefore they prefer to let things as they are, and they fall into the illusion of love. Communication is one of the main reasons for living the illusion of love and certainty.

You often think about your partner who doesn’t want to fulfill your wishes and be with you, but you will never know the truth without asking the right questions.

You will never know the reason for this behavior if you don’t talk. Being open to each other is a fundamental element in a relationship. You don’t need specific reasons to be opened to your partner; you just have to be yourself.

One of the facts that drive the illusion of love is to believe that your partner knows what you are thinking. People are smart but never smart enough to read someone else mind.

Hence, if you see that something goes wrong, discuss the issue if you care about your partner; it is so easy. Don’t wait for a change without doing anything; your role is crucial.

Emotions drive feelings, and your brain controls your feelings. Feelings are not right or wrong; they just exist. When you socialize with other people, it is essential to give clues to help them understand how are you feeling.

Expressing your feelings when you are in a relationship is vital. It is unnecessary to say everything you feel about that person, but you have to say something. In case you decided not to say anything, you might fall into an illusion; the illusion of being loved. 

If one of the partners somehow expresses the feelings, he will always expect something in return; simple things that give him value. If the partner provides nothing in return, the one who dared to say what he feels will fall into the illusion of certainty.

Responsibilities can be illusory. You know they exist, but you don’t talk about them. Talk about each one role so that everyone could feel important and valuable. 

By following this practice, you can avoid the illusion of love. How would you feel if you see that over 50% of responsibilities fall on your shoulder? Not good, I can bet. 

If you see your partner trying to discuss things about you two, do not let him talk alone, engage in conversation so you can end up at a conclusion.

In case you are an introverted person, try fighting for what you want, even if it is hard. Do not let the impression of indifference; keep in mind that it is very easy to be observed by most people. If you show indifference, your partner will start asking himself questions about you two. These questions could lead to a breakup.

Show your partner the attention he deserves. Make him feel important and valuable to you. All these simple things will increase the desire to meet as often as possible.

When we meet someone, we are used to not being ourselves. This behavior is normal since we don’t know that person.

Many of us use to behave unnaturally when they start a relationship. This behavior of not being ourselves and having restraints could lead to the illusion of love.

Try to be yourself, and act without restraints if you have feelings. If you don’t feel anything for that person or you are with him just to be with someone, let him know; if you don’t, he will live an illusion that at some point will end.

Consequently, I think you already noticed how complicated love is and how many compromises you have to make. Love is something we cannot live without; it gives you the power to make other people feel important and precious.

If you want to make a relationship works, you have to be very careful about your partner’s feelings. You are not allowed to play with feelings; people can suffer a lot because of this.

Live without the illusion of love and certainty. Build trust and give love to the ones you care about.